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Of a certain age… 01/05/14

by

Diane Goble

(This is a monthly column I write for my local newspaper, The Nugget, in Sisters, Oregon)

I had surgery last month– relatively minor, a parathyroidectomy– as an outpatient at St. Charles Hospital, but still it was under general anesthesia and the surgeon did have to slit my throat!

At the pre-admission interview I was asked if I had an Advance Healthcare Directive. I said yes, knowing I had filled it out some years ago covering every contingency I could think of indicating no resuscitation, no feeding tubes, no transfusions, no drastic measures.

Then the nice lady passed me a paper to sign waiving anything in my AHD about resuscitation, transfusions, etc. if my heart stops beating or anything goes wrong during surgery. Excuse me? If I didn’t sign it, I couldn’t have the surgery.

I signed because I really wanted to have this surgery and I figured the odds of anything going wrong were slim… and nothing went wrong, I’m fully recovered. Feeling much better, thank you.

Then the other day I read a news story about a 13-year old girl who had a tonsillectomy and is now brain dead. The hospital wants to pull the plug, the parents hold out hope that she’s going to wake up. Who gets to decide when there is no AHD? This could be another Terry Schiavo case.

Many people live in death denial. When it comes up, there’s shock, panic, confusion… there’s guilt, shame, fear. This can’t be happening to me! to my child! to my mother! to my partner!

We pretend it’s never going to happen and try not to think about it– but this doesn’t just happen to others– it can happen to people we love and care about, and can’t bear the thought of losing.

As the year draws to a close and families gather together, it’s a good time to consider your own future healthcare plans and open up The Conversation at the dinner table with all family members present. Age or health is irrelevant because we are all going to kick the bucket one day.

Death is a family affair and it will help everybody to know how you want it to go when your time comes. This isn’t about your money and possessions– that’s a different conversation. In order to know which healthcare options you want and don’t want in an emergency or end of life situation, you have to look at all the possibilities and write them down, otherwise other people, probably strangers, could be making these decisions for you if you are unable to do so yourself.

What if? What if you have a heart attack? get cancer? get hit by a truck? are badly burned? are in a persistent vegetative state? Do you want artificial hydration and nutrition? to be put on a ventilator? for how long? what about quality of life? Help each other make these decisions now to prevent arguments, mistakes, wrongdoings, and guilt during a health crisis.

Get the information and have the conversation– and it’s not just one conversation because circumstances change. Review your Advance Healthcare Directive every 5 years or if your health changes or you change your mind about something. This isn’t just for us of a certain age– include your children as well.

Contact compassionandchoices.com for state-specific forms and theconversationproject.org about having The Conversation… then attend one of my free Future Heathcare Planning sessions (watch Announcements).

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The best gift you can give your family is to have all your paperwork together so they can carry out your end of life wishes if it becomes necessary. This workbook will help you and your loved ones have the conversations needed to make the decisions beforehand that they might be called upon to make for you in an emergency situation. Doing everything is not always the best response… and hope is not a plan.

For those who experience fear of death, this near-death experiencer describes leaving her drowning body in full consciousness, traveling through a void on a peaceful journey accompanied by an loving being of light that filled her with unconditional love, to an indescribably beautiful place where she was given a message to return with and share as widely as she could, that… we don’t die!

We are spiritual beings having human experiences and when we leave these human bodies, we continue along our spiritual journeys. We simply return home to the Source, the One, and we retain the essence of who we really are.

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It has been her life work since her experience in 1971 to share this message and to teach the art of conscious dying, and now she has put her teachings into a workbook to help families talk to each other, their doctors, and their higher consciousness as they prepare to leave this phase of life and transition to the next, fully conscious.

Available everywhere – ISBN 9780963860651

R&RonMcKenzie

Of a certain age… 11/27/13

by

Diane Goble

(This is a monthly column I write for my local newspaper, The Nugget, in Sisters, Oregon)

I’m poised on the leading edge of that age group in the U.S. that is increasing by 400,000 people a year. When the first of the Baby Boomers hit 75, it will swell to over a million a year. That’s only 7 years from now.

Seventy-five is about the age many of us will start to need assistance with daily living. It starts with small things– forgetting to pay bills, missing appointments, letting the dishes pile up. Once we have to stop driving, it presents us with new challenges to living on our own. We have to rely more and more on others, and that’s really hard. We become more isolated and spend more time alone sitting in front of the TV.

Just as there comes a time to stop driving, there comes a time when we really shouldn’t live alone anymore. We may be bull-headed enough to put up a fight, insisting we can manage on our own with just a little extra help, until we set the kitchen on fire or walk out the door and forget where we live.

The point I’m trying to make is that we need to be pro-active. We need to do the research, talk to family members, consult with our doctor, and put some plans in writing before the decision is out of our hands.

Let’s take a look at this booming industry out there just waiting to take care of all our needs. You might want to buy stock in assisted living corporations now if you hope to survive because now it can cost between $3,000 and $5,000 a month, $8,000 or more if you have dementia. Imagine what it will cost 7 years from now! And this is just assisted living, not nursing home care. I don’t know about you, but if I asked everybody I know to help, I wouldn’t be able to pay the first month’s rent!

So what does “assisted” mean? Assisted living is not for people who are sill playing golf or hiking the Sisters. It’s not for people who still drive or go south for the winter. And it’s not for people who need continuing medical care or have advanced dementia. It’s for people in between who are still somewhat active, but in declining health, who may need a walker or a wheelchair, who can still take care of most of their personal needs, but who need increasing assistance.

Most of us want to stay in our own homes as long as we can, even die in our own beds, but things don’t always go the way we’d like. Maybe you’re lucky enough to have children or other family members near-by who can visit you at home or who you can stay with for a while, though that can be very stressful all around and may not be a good long-term solution.

Sometimes we lose control over what happens to us and we’re forced into assisted living against our will. It could be the next step following a hospital admittance and 30-days in rehab– a broken hip, stroke, heart attack, auto accident, a fall in the bathtub. Your life changes instantly!

As I begin to think about this possibility for myself, I notice that, except for a couple of board and care homes, there is no assisted living facility in Sisters. What does that say about a community that doesn’t provide for its elders? This means a move to Bend or Redmond, and the likelihood of my children and grandchildren coming to visit me with any regularity, given their busy lives, is slim to none. That’s a lonely thought.

We may not want to go into assisted living but circumstances may force us in and it’s better to have some options for our children to evaluate if something should happen to us and they are forced to make a hasty decision on our behalf. Your preferences and choices should be included with your Advanced Healthcare Directive and other end-of-life paperwork so your family knows what you would want if you are unable to speak for yourself. And, of course, you have all that paperwork taken care of, right?

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The best gift you can give your family is to have all your paperwork together so they can carry out your end of life wishes if it becomes necessary. This workbook will help you and your loved ones have the conversations needed to make the decisions beforehand that they might be called upon to make for you in an emergency situation. Doing everything is not always the best response… and hope is not a plan.

For those who experience fear of death, this near-death experiencer describes leaving her drowning body in full consciousness, traveling through a void on a peaceful journey accompanied by an loving being of light that filled her with unconditional love, to an indescribably beautiful place where she was given a message to return with and share as widely as she could, that… we don’t die!

We are spiritual beings having human experiences and when we leave these human bodies, we continue along our spiritual journeys. We simply return home to the Source, the One, and we retain the essence of who we really are.

9780963860651-Perfect.indd

It has been her life work since her experience in 1971 to share this message and to teach the art of conscious dying, and now she has put her teachings into a workbook to help families talk to each other, their doctors, and their higher consciousness as they prepare to leave this phase of life and transition to the next, fully conscious.

Available everywhere – ISBN 9780963860651

Afterlife Awareness Conference now available live stream

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National Healthcare Decisions Day – April 16, 2015

National Healthcare Decisions DayChurchExitIt’s time to get The Conversation started—

How do you feel about discussing your own death??

Do you have religious, spiritual or moral beliefs that may play a part in your views about medical treatments that may extend your life? What are these views?

Does concern about money play a part in making your decisions about medical care? In what way?

Do you worry about being a burden to your loved ones? If so, in what way? How do you think your loved ones would feel about being caregivers?

Would being aware, being free of pain, remaining independent, or other issues about quality of life play a part in your decisions about medical care? How?

How would your loved ones be affected if they had to make decisions about your care? Would they know what you want?

Do you have an Exit Strategy?

Contact your local hospice or Compassion & Choices to get the information you’ll need to have The Conversation with your family and have everyone fill out an Advance Healthcare Directive (state specific) because we never know which day they might become necessary.

If you might be interested in taking part in an online Death Cafe, which is a general conversation about death and dying, please fill out the form below and if enough people are interested, I’ll contact you.

 

Pauline Interviews Near-Death Experiencer Diane Goble

Diane Goble, MS, CCHt

Author, Educator, Spiritual Counselor, Hypnotherapist, Transition Guide

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talks about her near-death experience while drowning and the after-effects

with Pauline (March 2015) in Sisters, Oregon

Part One (14:32)

Part Two (10.03)

Part Three (11:32)

For more information, go to BeyondtheVeil.net

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Available at amazon.com and bookstores everywhere

The Art of Dying Conference – April 24, 2015

Sisters Sunset 8/21/13The New York Center presents

The Art of Dying Conference

April 24 – 26, 2015

The Art of Dying is a groundbreaking conference that brings together renowned thought-leaders, researchers and practitioners in the area of death and dying,  including the professional fields of palliative and hospice care.

SPEAKERS

Eben Alexander, MD • Leslie Blackhall, MD • Jeanne Denny • Peter Fenwick, MD • Henry Fersko-Weiss, LCSW • Kunchok Gyaltsen, DTM, MPH, PhD • Gary Malkin • Thomas Moore, PhD • Frank Ostaseski • Simcha Raphael, PhD • Stephen Ross, MD • Terese Schroeder-Sheker • Judith Kennedy Schwarz, RN, PhD • Robert A.F. ‘Tenzin’ Thurman, PhD • Pim van Lommel, MD • Michael Gruber, PhD

Near-Death Experiencer Shares Secrets from Beyond the Veil

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Author on BlogTalkRadio with Pamela Edmunds’ Bridge Between Two Worlds – 2/12/14

Author on BlogTalkRadio with Pamela Cummins’ The Love Channel Show – 4/15/14

The Path to Peace & Joy (2013) – 15,290 words – $1.99

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How to Die Consciously: Secrets from Beyond the Veil (2011) – 52,520 words – $2.99

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Conversations with a Near-Death Experiencer – Book 1 (2010) – 95,840 words – $3.99

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The Afterlife Awareness Conference – June 4-7, 2015

The 5th Annual Original

AFTERLIFE AWARENESS CONFERENCE

Featuring psychic medium John Holland, Dr. Raymond Moody, Dr. Eben Alexander, out-of-body explorer William Buhlman, authors Anita Moorjani and Annie Kagan (Annie appears via Skype), mediums Suzane Northrop and Hollister Rand, and a stellar lineup of physicians, shamans, scientific researchers, grief counselors, spiritual leaders and more!

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Thank you for supporting my efforts to raise awareness about end-of life conversations and planning by purchasing your event tickets through this blog 


The Afterlife Education Foundation (AEF) is an Oregon non-profit corporation founded in 2010 in response to the need foran expanded worldwide conversation about the survival of consciousness after death.

 

Physician-assisted suicide addressed in new book by Near-Death Experiencer

Beyond the Veil

Our Journey Home

by Diane Goble

We’re all going to die some day so–

  • shouldn’t we all be looking into this event instead of living in denial and pretending it only happens to other people?

  • shouldn’t we at least have some tools available to us so when it does, however it does, we’re prepared and know what to do next?

  • shouldn’t we prepare ourselves to take care of and comfort a loved one who is terribly ill or elderly and facing their own death?

That’s what I thought when I first began writing this book, which is what I was asked to do when I decided to come back into my body during my near-death experience while drowning during a white water river rafting accident in 1971.

Voilà!

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 The answers to all those questions you have about death, dying and what comes next are between these covers.

The paperback, published by Cosmic Creativity, is now available on amazon.com and at most major book retailers.

Posting reviews or sharing your thoughts about Beyond the Veil on retailer websites, like amazon.com, may contribute to the evolution of human consciousness and are much appreciated by all those who contributed to the publication of this valuable book.


… a way for individuals to consciously prepare for what’s to come, and to better understand the life in their death, and what happens next. Anyone can benefit from this book, so keep it handy. You may use it more often than you think.

~ P.M.H. Atwater, L.H.D., researcher and author of Near-Death Experiences: The Rest of the Story and We Live Forever: The Real Truth About Death

There is no easy way to bring up the conversation of death but Goble’s book shows us why this is one of the most important discussions that we can have.

~ Josie Varga, author of Visits from Heaven and Visits to Heaven

Ultimately learning how to be fully present and conscious for the one who is passing is one of the greatest gifts you can offer someone you love.

~ JoAnn Chambers, Vibrational Sound Healer and co-author of The Sonic Keys: Sound, Light & Frequency; DNA Activation, and The Secret of Abundance


This is a conversation you must have with yourself…

and probably should have with all family members–

not that you need to have all the answers right now, but just to get you started thinking about these important questions before it’s necessary to know the answers so there won’t be any family disagreements in the heat of a crisis. We all need to have these conversations about the end of our lives and what we do want and don’t want as far as treatment options, including invasive procedures, aggressive therapies, prescription drugs, palliative care, hospice,  and when and where we choose to die, depending on the circumstances and based on our own values, traditions and beliefs. Ideally we need to review our choices every 5 years as we get older, if we have health changes, lifestyle changes, because we often make different decisions as our age and circumstances change. We need to think about situations like–

If your heart stopped right now, what is your family’s plan?

Does anyone know where your important papers, passwords, contacts, valuables are kept and what you want done with them and who to contact after you’re gone?

If your persistent headaches led to a diagnosis of an inoperable brain tumor and a diagnosis of 6 months or less to live, would you consider the Death with Dignity option (do you know if it’s available in your state/country, what the requirements are)?

Are you aware that your Emergency Contact is not necessarily your Healthcare Representative unless that person is also designated in your Advance Healthcare Directive/Living Will?

If your spouse had a sudden illness requiring hospitalization, what things would you have to do that you wouldn’t ordinarily do? What if the person had been in an accident and was in a coma?

Do you really know what it means if you say do everything to save me?

Knowing that at some point you will die, how do you hope your death will be? Have you told anyone? Have you contemplated your own death?

Have you considered how you would manage becoming a full-time caregiver for a severely ill child or an elderly parent?

If you are entering your dying process, have you reconciled your life and found peace of mind or do you fear what lies ahead?


Beyond the Veil: Our Journey Home

was written by Diane Goble, a near-death experiencer who became a spiritual teacher, based on what she learned during her journey home and was asked to bring back to share with as many people as she could.
Her primary message is– We Don’t Die!
Her book is a resource manual, chock full of information about the options that are available to us as we are preparing ourselves for transition or being a caregiver for someone who is in the dying process.
It is a training manual based on the author’s professional course to teach caregivers to be Transition Guides for their dying loved ones or patients.
It is a personal workbook with plenty of Notes pages for those soon departing as they are guided through the practice of the Art of Conscious Dying and writing their own Personal Transition Guidebook.
It is printed in large type.

For those of you who need more, go to BeyondtheVeil.net. Diane will be offering classes and webinars with special guests, and private consultations about end-of-life issues and conversations in the near future. If you would like to receive updates, fill out the following form:

“Beyond the Veil: Our Journey Home” by Diane Goble – to be released 1/1/15

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Beyond the Veil: Our Journey Home

by

Diane Goble

Release Date: January 1, 2015

… a way for individuals to consciously prepare for what’s to come, and to better understand the life in their death, and what happens next. Anyone can benefit from this book, so keep it handy. You may use it more often than you think.

~ P.M.H. Atwater, L.H.D., researcher and author of Near-Death Experiences: The Rest of the Story and We Live Forever: The Real Truth About Death

There is no easy way to bring up the conversation of death but Goble’s book shows us why this is one of the most important discussions that we can have.

~ Josie Varga, author of Visits from Heaven and Visits to Heaven

Ultimately learning how to be fully present and conscious for the one who is passing is one of the greatest gifts you can offer someone you love.

~ JoAnn Chambers, Vibrational Sound Healer and co-author of The Sonic Keys: Sound, Light & Frequency; DNA Activation, and The Secret of Abundance


This is a conversation you must have with yourself and probably should have with all family members–

not that you need to have all the answers right now, but just to get you started thinking about these important questions before it’s necessary to know the answers so there won’t be any arguments in the heat of the moment. We all need to have these conversations about the end of our lives and what we do want and don’t want as far as treatment options, palliative care, hospice care and when and where we choose to die, depending on the circumstances and based on our own values, traditions and beliefs. Ideally we need to reconsider our choices every 5 years as we get older, if we have health changes, lifestyle changes, because we often make different decisions as our age and circumstances change.

If your heart stopped right now, what is your family’s plan?

Does anyone know where your important papers, passwords, contacts, valuables are kept and what you want done with them and who to contact after you’re gone?

If your persistent headaches led to a diagnosis of an inoperable brain tumor and a diagnosis of 6 months or less to live, would you consider the Death with Dignity option (do you know if it’s available in your state/country, what the requirements are)?

Are you aware that your Emergency Contact is not necessarily your Healthcare Representative unless that person is also designated in your Advance Healthcare Directive/Living Will?

If your spouse had a sudden illness requiring hospitalization, what things would you have to do that you wouldn’t ordinarily do? What if the person had been in an accident and was in a coma?

Knowing that at some point you will die, how do you hope your death will be? Have you told anyone? Have you contemplated your own death?

Have you considered how you would manage becoming a full-time caregiver for a severely ill child or an elderly parent?

If you are entering your dying process, have you reconciled your life and found peace of mind or do you fear what lies ahead?


Beyond the Veil: Our Journey Home was written by Diane Goble, a near-death experiencer, based on what she learned during her journey home and was asked to bring back to share with as many people as she could. Her primary message is that We Don’t Die! Her book is a resource manual, chock full of information about the options that are available to us as we are dying or being a caregiver for someone who is in the dying process. It is a training manual to teach caregivers to be Transition Guides for their dying loved ones or patients. It is a personal workbook with plenty of Notes pages for those who are dying as they are guided through the practice of the Art of Conscious Dying and writing their own Personal Transition Guidebook. It is in large print to make it easier to read.