Questions about death and dying




Readers’ questions to a near-death experiencer at

Chapter Three

Death and Dying

*Life has no meaning

*Is there a way to communicate with loved ones?

*Presence at the cemetery

*Worried about my dad making it to Heaven

I came across your NDE story. I am searching for answers. I lost my dad and have great difficulty. I worry that my dad might not have made it to heaven. He was a church going man, but as far as learning about salvation, I am not sure whether he learned what he needed to.

*Part of me now believes death is the end

*What was Dad seeing?

*Is it possible to know when we’re going to die?

*My step-son died in Iraq, now my son is going there

*Family Bonds

*Don’t rock the boat

I’m a hospice volunteer. At one of our training sessions on end-of-life issues, we were told by one of the hospice nurses that we should never tell a patient or the family that it’s all right to let go. I was surprised by this advice and can’t say I agree with it. Please let me know your viewpoint.

*Is a visitor watching over my daughter?

*How to approach the dying

*I am struggling to even accept I am dying

*He dreamt that he would die in a car crash

My son told me a few months before his passing that he dreamt that he would die in a car crash but I tried to convince him that he was wrong, but he told me that he seen other things that had come true and even said that I wouldn’t believe some of the things he had seen, he wouldn’t describe them to me.

*Angelic choir

*Grandma was telling me no from the other side

*Transition Guide training

*I am not much use

*My dog is dying

My only companion and friend is dying, my dog Betsy. I have made several promises to her, and I think we understand each other. I promised no drugs and euthanasia, unless she were suffering, which she does not seem to be. I promised I would be with her throughout it all–I am with her. Should it really be her time, do you have any suggestions for me to assist her further? 

*How do I approach hospice to offer my services?

*Interested in helping myself and others make a graceful transition

*What was my Gram aware of in her final moments?


I just visited your site. And I am speechless. I have been reading through your articles beginning with the right to die. I am caring for an elderly grandmother who I refused to let stay in a nursing home. Just recently we started a journal of sorts to organize her memories and life. I continued reading on through meaning of life etc and the hair on my arms and the crown of my head stood up. I was moved to tears. Some how I wanted to cry with joy for what I was reading. I was so deeply touched by your insights some how you’ve articulated so many things I’ve felt, thought and sensed.

*Concerned about final decisions

*Letting go to the Light #1

*Letting go to the Light #2

*My father is dying

*Conversations about end of life issues

*Should your doctor help you die?

Survey of Parade Magazine readers, September 1997– “As we increasingly recognize the limitations of medicine, most of us believe we should be allowed to take things into our own hands, our survey indicates. Two-thirds of the respondents (66%) feel doctors should be allowed to help terminally ill patients die with dignity.”

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Assisted Dying debate on TV show

I gave up TV about 4 years ago (which has made a huge difference in my life, you should try it, just for 30 days and see what I mean) but after all these years I still keep up with one drama via the Internet… Grey’s Anatomy. It takes place in a hospital in Seattle and concerns the daily activities of doctors as do their work, Dr. Grey being one of the main characters. In a recent story line, a surgeon and former Chief of Staff of the hospital, is accidentally electrocuted and subsequently revived by extraordinary medical technology and drastic surgical interventions. He comes out of surgery barely alive, in a coma, on life support.

Does he have an Advance Healthcare Directive? Yes, great. Who did he appoint as his healthcare representative? Dr. Grey who is the daughter of a prominent doctor with whom the Chief had an affair many years ago and who is her superior? He didn’t bother to mention this little detail to her and it came as a complete shock. Not to mention that she was currently in the hospital after an emergency surgery during which she nearly lost her baby. She could barely think much less make a decision about her boss’ life or death.

There was pandemonium all around, everyone trying to figure out what to do with the comatose doctor. What would he have wanted? Surely he would have wanted everything and one doctor kept forcing treatments on him in his own best interests. Others thought it was time to let him go and argued to stop drastic measures.

Well, blahblahblah, more stuff happened and then he actually regains consciousness and sees what has happened to him, all hooked up to this and that, and he pitches a fit. He refuses this, refuses that, let me go, let me go. And this other doctor keeps shoving things in him and making him stay alive.

Cut to another patient who is clearly dying and the doctors are telling him there’s nothing more they can do. He needs to get his affairs in order and call hospice… and he pitches a fit. He wants everything, every test, every clinical trial, every new drug or surgery… bring it all on, I’m not going to die.

Turns out the same doctor who is trying to keep her Chief alive is also treating this dude who refuses to accept death as an option. After much back and forth discussions about choices, she puts the two men in the same room together to let them work it out. Not funny, but it was quite funny… the looks they gave each other!

What I find interesting about this is that this conversation is getting into mainstream homes and more people are going to start realizing how important it is to talk to your loved ones and your physician about end-of-life choices and filling out Advance Healthcare Directives so your wishes are carried out.

I’m hoping since their hospital is in the state of Washington where the Death With Dignity Act is law that they will take the story line to that level to help more people understand that it’s not about killing people, it’s about letting people die when they are ready to let go near the end of their lives on their own terms.